| Rearranging Your Relationship Furniture Successful relationships can be characterized by two chairs and a couch. Each chair represents your personal place and the couch is where you come together as a couple.Can you be in your chair (do your own thing) when your partner is on the couch (wanting to be together) without feeling guilty?Does your partner have a hard time getting off the couch (togetherness) and sitting in his or her own chair (separateness?)How long do you stay on the couch when your partner insists on remaining in his or her chair?How does your partner’s need to be in the chair (doing his or her own thing) keep you on the couch (wanting togetherness?)When you want your partner to leave his or her chair for more together time on the couch, remember it takes as much courage to leave a chair as it does to leave the couch. Ask your partner if you are a couch person or a chair person and discuss his or her answer. Successful relationships allow both persons to be in their respective chairs and occasionally share the couch together. When one is on the couch and the other is in the chair, both accept their differences. How would you describe the furniture in your relationship?Two couches…No chairs? One chair…One Couch? Two chairs…No couch? |